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To support you in thinking about how your child might spend their summer, I've created a short video for parents. It offers guidance on balancing structure and freedom, and how to approach summer in a way that supports both growth and joy.

Parent Questions Answered: Can you tell me about handling anger in kids?

A parent recently asked me, “Why should I accept my child's angry (even violent) outbursts when society won't?” Here’s my response. And remember: We want our kids to have a felt sense that feeling anger is an okay and even healthy human emotion. But, they are also responsible for their behavior--they just can't get to that point until they're developmentally ready. So our job is to help them by co-regulating, while providing parameters that allow them to not do damage while they're in that state. And as development unfolds, we are then better able to have conversations with them, and to h

Resilience requires a few bumps in the road. And that's okay.

I had a wonderful time chatting with Dr. Aliza Pressman on her podcast and about her new book, THE FIVE PRINCIPLES OF PARENTING. It's an amazing read and in this video, I share my thoughts on "rules" which is also one of the five principles Aliza mentions in her book. And for good reason. As parents, we want to be emotionally responsive to our kids and connected, but we want to be careful we don't fall into permissiveness. In fact, when we bubble-wrap our children and protect them from any discomfort, distress, or potential challenge, we actually make them more fragile, leaving them less cap

PARENT QUESTION: What do I do if my kid pushes me away when I’m trying to help them calm down?

A parent recently asked me, “What do I do if my kid pushes me away when I’m trying to help them calm down?” Here’s my response. Remember: How we respond when our kids are hurting makes it more or less likely that they’ll share their feelings with us in the future. Our response gives them information about whether or not we’re safe enough to share feelings with, or if they need to hide their feelings from us. Be present to and honor how they feel, whatever that is. I hope this helps! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Thanks for watching! Subscrib

Internal States & Unpredictability

I had an amazing time talking this week with Dr. Stephen Porges (author of Polyvagal Theory and creator of SSP) and it's had my brain firing. This video is a quick share about some new language Stephen shared, and which I hope will be useful to you, whether you're a parent, educator, or professional. I also want to give a big thank you to my host, Unyte, which aims to empower therapists, educators, clinicians and healthcare providers to guide their clients to feel better, think better, and connect better through improved nervous system regulation. Access the full complimentary webinar, "Clini

The sleepover controversy: my take

Seems like everyone is talking about that Atlantic article on fears about sleepovers. Here's where I land. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Thanks for watching! Subscribe to this channel and get encouragement and tips to raise kids who are happy, healthy, and fully themselves: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCXGwMEmoL_noUYgx8kpakw . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ABOUT TINA: Dr. Tina Payne Bryson is the author of THE BOTTOM LINE FOR BABY (Random House 2020) and co-author (with Dan Siegel) of two

Survive IS Thrive

Over the years, my co-author Dr. Dan Siegel and I have met thousands of parents and when we ask them what matters most to them, there were two goals that were almost always at the top of the list: they want to survive difficult parenting moments, AND they want their kids and their family to thrive. As parents ourselves, we share the same goals for our own families. In our nobler, calmer, saner moments, we care about nurturing our kids' minds, increasing their sense of wonder, and helping them reach their potential in all aspects of life. But in the more frantic, stressful, bribe-the-toddler-i

"Pushin' and Cushion": When to Let a Child Struggle--from THE YES BRAIN

When we step in and rescue a child from a problem she can handle on her own, we short-circuit her opportunity to learn how to address a difficult issue or understand her capacity to handle hard stuff. But how do we know when to let our child struggle and when to step in and help? This short video offers some ideas to help. (This concept comes from my book THE YES BRAIN: HOW TO CULTIVATE COURAGE, CURIOSITY, AND RESILIENCE IN YOUR CHILD, co-written with Dr. Dan Siegel and I hope you enjoy it). . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Thanks for watchin

Do you ever feel like your kid isn't listening to you?

Here’s one my favorite ways to approach this situation. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Thanks for watching! Subscribe to this channel and get encouragement and tips to raise kids who are happy, healthy, and fully themselves: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCXGwMEmoL_noUYgx8kpakw . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ABOUT TINA: Dr. Tina Payne Bryson is the author of THE BOTTOM LINE FOR BABY (Random House 2020) and co-author (with Dan Siegel) of two NY Times Best Sellers—THE WHOLE-BRAIN CHILD (Rand

Getting too much parenting advice from others?

Getting too much advice? Here's my go-to phrase along with an idea that encourages engagement, curiosity, and boundaries while connecting in the moment. I hope it helps and while I'm at it, here's your reminder (ahead of the holidays) to let go of parental perfectionism. First, there’s no such thing as perfection. We’re all human, and we all make mistakes. The important part is what you do after that. When we don’t connect in a loving way in a moment, as long as a repair is made and the child experiences the parent as a stabilizing secure base, the child learns they can rely on the parent to

5 outdated ways people think about discipline and 3 big ideas

Here’s a short video where I summarize five of the outdated ways we think about discipline, child development, and how kids learn, followed by three big ideas around discipline and skill building. I hope this is helpful to you! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Thanks for watching! Subscribe to this channel and get encouragement and tips to raise kids who are happy, healthy, and fully themselves: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCXGwMEmoL_noUYgx8kpakw . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ABOUT TINA: D

"What's your plan?"

If you feel like you're lecturing your kid all the time or frequently have to tell them what to do, then here's a new strategy you can try. It comes from one of my favorite parenting books by Christine Carter Ph.D. ❤️📕 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Thanks for watching! Subscribe to this channel and get encouragement and tips to raise kids who are happy, healthy, and fully themselves: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCXGwMEmoL_noUYgx8kpakw . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ABOUT TINA: Dr. Tina

Why using threats to get cooperation often backfires

Here's a short video to talk about why using threats to get cooperation is no-win game for everyone and oftentimes backfires. As a quick reminder: no one is perfect and you're not going to discipline from a No-Drama or Whole-Brain perspective every time you get a chance. Neither do we. But you can decide that you'll take steps in that direction. And every step you take, you'll give your kids a gift of a parent who is increasingly committed to their lifelong success and happiness, and making them happy, healthy, and fully themselves. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

Mistake Monday 21 - from NO-DRAMA DISCIPLINE

. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Thanks for watching! Subscribe to this channel and get encouragement and tips to raise kids who are happy, healthy, and fully themselves: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCXGwMEmoL_noUYgx8kpakw . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ABOUT TINA: Dr. Tina Payne Bryson is the author of THE BOTTOM LINE FOR BABY (Random House 2020) and co-author (with Dan Siegel) of two NY Times Best Sellers—THE WHOLE-BRAIN CHILD (Random House 2011) and NO-DRAMA DISCIPLINE (Random House 2014

Mistake Monday 20 -- from NO-DRAMA DISCIPLINE

. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Thanks for watching! Subscribe to this channel and get encouragement and tips to raise kids who are happy, healthy, and fully themselves: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCXGwMEmoL_noUYgx8kpakw . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ABOUT TINA: Dr. Tina Payne Bryson is the author of THE BOTTOM LINE FOR BABY (Random House 2020) and co-author (with Dan Siegel) of two NY Times Best Sellers—THE WHOLE-BRAIN CHILD (Random House 2011) and NO-DRAMA DISCIPLINE (Random House 2014